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« on: November 03, 2009, 08:21:16 AM »


Answering a question can be difficult.  It may require knowledge that is unavailable or insight that is impossible to conjure on demand.  But the answer may be meaningless, or even misleading, if the question is wrong.

Asking the right question is an art.

Let's imagine that you have an old friend coming to visit.  You know the area well, but your friend has never been.  You would like to treat your friend to a nice dinner at a local restaurant, but you are not sure which restaurant to choose.  Your friend has deferred to your expertise, but you are concerned that his tastes may differ from yours.  Although there are several restaurants that you find delightful (and many others that you find enjoyable, or at least more than adequate) you are hesitant to simply invite him to your favorite bistro.

You have heard a vague rumor that has a reputation as a fussy diner.  You have some reason--never mind its provenance--that there are restaurants that you might pick that your friend would not enjoy, but you do not know which, or what criteria they might share.  He is far too polite to make any objection to your suggestion, but you will do not wish to test his tolerance.

The question weighs on your mind.  Has he become a vegetarian, or vegan?  Has his doctor prescribed a diet low in salt or fat?  Is he keeping kosher?  Does he have allergies?  Is he open to new experiences, or will unagi and raw uni damage your relationship?

Your friend calls.  He's on the plane, about to depart.  The door will be closing soon, at which time he will need to hang up his phone.  You have time for a few quick questions and answers.

What should you ask?
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« Reply #1 on: November 03, 2009, 11:03:50 AM »

Give him/her a choice of a couple of places saying something like:- "Would you like to go to "It's Greek to Me" or would something lighter like Salad Fantasia be more to your liking?" (That's how I would handle it - my Spousal Unit and I are always fighting about who has to choose the restaurant - I find if one narrows the choices and the other chooses then usually everyone is happy!)
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« Reply #2 on: November 03, 2009, 05:05:37 PM »

Take him for uni.
He'll eat it.
He'll get sick and die.
You'll never have this problem again.
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« Reply #3 on: November 03, 2009, 05:20:56 PM »

Take him for uni.
He'll eat it.
He'll get sick and die.
You'll never have this problem again.

If I simply wanted to kill him, I wouldn't waste perfectly good uni to do it.
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« Reply #4 on: November 03, 2009, 07:53:23 PM »

Is there such a  thing as perfectly good uni?

Take him for uni.
He'll eat it.
He'll get sick and die.
You'll never have this problem again.

If I simply wanted to kill him, I wouldn't waste perfectly good uni to do it.
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« Reply #5 on: November 04, 2009, 06:02:38 AM »

What is a uni?
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« Reply #6 on: November 04, 2009, 08:03:13 AM »

I think it's some kind of light colored dung...tastes like it anyway.
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« Reply #7 on: November 08, 2009, 09:37:15 AM »

I think it's some kind of light colored dung...tastes like it anyway.
How does that differ from Marmite?
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« Reply #8 on: November 08, 2009, 12:50:26 PM »

I'd just throw the ball entirely into their court and pray that they didn't pick something I didn't like.
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« Reply #9 on: November 17, 2009, 10:13:10 PM »

I think it's some kind of light colored dung...tastes like it anyway.
How does that differ from Marmite?

Marmite is darker colored dung!
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« Reply #10 on: November 20, 2009, 04:19:33 PM »

What is a uni?
Uni is sea urchin - You can buy it as sushi on rice.  It is gooey and doesn't taste very good. My cat wouldn't even eat it. (It is better in Japan when you get it fresh.)
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